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Wednesday, July 23, 2014

Show & Tell #87

Welcome back to Gingerly Made's Show & Tell party!

It's time to link up your latest and greatest again! I am always excited to see what you've been up to. Before we get into this week's newest projects, let's take a look at some of the highlights of last week's party.

ScreenHunter 1190 May. 27 17.14 Simple Ginger Lime Mahi Mahi

And, just in case you've missed some of this week's post, here's what I've been working on.

There's only a couple hours left on this giveaway, so hurry to enter if you haven't already

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Monday, July 21, 2014

Why We Don't Make Our Kids Share

Why We Don't Make Our Kids Share

Our kids have been struggling with the concept of sharing lately. They are 2 and 5 so it's to be expected I suppose, but it is frustrating for everyone while we are learning these lessons in sharing. It feels as if everyday, multiple times a day, I am breaking up shouting matches, tug of war matches, and kids running through the house one with a toy lofted high above her head screaming at the top of her lungs while her sister is hot on her heels grabbing and screaming after whatever momentary precious thing.

I break up the fight, explain why we need to share, why we shouldn't fight over things, why we need to respect each other, etc. They give a half-hearted sorry, grudgingly share their toy, and 5 minutes later are fighting over a different thing. This. Is. Not. Working.

Why can't they figure it out?

But even bigger than sharing has become the EXPECTATION of sharing.

My 5-year-old is the primary offender here. She has learned that we are supposed to share. So her greedy little heart asks for a toy her sister just picked up. If her sister doesn't give it to her, complains "She isn't sharing."

Then one day my husband, wonderful man, sent me an article about NOT SHARING. There's a whole book about it and other odd parenting ideas. I haven't read the book yet, but it's on my list. It was a complete light bulb moment for me.

The general idea is this. As parents trying to teach our children to share, we often force them to give up things they are still playing with simply because another kid wants that toy. This teaches our children all the wrong things. We have taught one child that another person can take their things and their willingness to give it is irrelevant. And we have taught the other child lack of patience and that they can take something from another without consent.

Requiring that a child give up his or her possession and give it to another simply because he/she asked is NOT preparing kids for the real world. In fact, it makes sharing feel an awful lot like theft.

I want my children to have a generous heart. I want them to be compassionate, caring people who do for others because of the leading of their hearts. Forcing them to give up their belongings is not the way to do that. Generosity is a willingness to give - not a requirement.

The no sharing concept, says that children should not be required to share the toys they are playing with. The child can play with the toy they have until they are finished playing with it. Then, and only then can another child can play with it. THERE IS NO ASKING FOR SOMEONE ELSE'S TOY. They can ask, "Can I play with you?", not "Can I have the toy you are playing with?".

Principles of the No Sharing Concept:
  • Playing with a Toy Until You are Done instead of Forced Sharing
  • Waiting for Things to become Available instead of Asking for Things Others are Playing With
Since learning these concepts, and beginning to put them in place in our house, my eyes have been opened. I see the problems with forced sharing all the time now.

One example is a recent incident at our pool in which another child wanted to play with the float my daughter had. Caitlin politely told her that she was playing with it. So what did the other kid do? She chased my kid around and around grabbing at her, whining, and telling Caitlin that she needed to share. The mom did not interfere and tell her kid that her behavior was inappropriate. (I didn't either at this point. I wanted to see where it would go and give Caitlin a chance to handle it.) Caitlin was desperate; she couldn't play because of this kid in her space. She got out of the pool and began to get as far as she could away and called out to me.

At this point I intervened. I told the girl that Caitlin was playing with her float and when Caitlin was done she was welcome to play with it.

That didn't work. The girl stopped chasing, but was still loudly complaining. So I decided to be the momma since hers hadn't stepped in yet.

I smiled at her and called her over. The conversation went something like this:

"Can I tell you something?" Kid nods.
"We've been having some trouble with sharing at our house. So, we made a rule. The rule says that if you are playing with a toy, you get to play with it until you're done. Then the next person can have it. Caitlin is playing with her toy right now, but as soon as she's done, she will share it with you."

The little girl simply said "Ok."

That mostly solved it. The girl still complained a bit and finally the other mom got involved. She told her daughter that "She doesn't want to .... (looks at me) She can't share that float. Leave her alone". Then the mom apologized to me and thanked me for being understanding. That all told me she was aware of what was going on, but chose not to do anything about it.

There are other examples I could give you, but I think this one best illustrates the point - plus we don't have all day. So let me close in saying this, since incorporating these concepts in our home I have seen a drastic change in our sharing problems. Are they gone? Of course not. My kids are still young and kids will be kids, but the sharing issues are less frequent. I still have to remind them of our principles - waiting until the other person is done and not asking for a toy over and over again.

Once I give a gentle reminder, that is usually enough for them. Abiding by these concepts leave my kids with a feeling of empowerment instead of feeling cheated. Sharing is now their choice. And because it is their choice, they seem to choose it more often. And THAT is what sharing SHOULD be.

No Sharing

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Thursday, July 17, 2014

Summer Cash Giveaway $650

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It's the last of the summer cash giveaways! I've partnered with some amazing bloggers that want to give a little something back our readers. One of the most fun things about blogging is the community that comes with it. I love reading your comments and questions. These cash giveaways are just a little way to say "Thanks." As always 1 winner gets to walk away with everything.

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Wednesday, July 16, 2014

Show & Tell #86

Welcome back to Gingerly Made's Show & Tell party!

It's time to link up your latest and greatest again! I am always excited to see what you've been up to. Before we get into this week's newest projects, let's take a look at some of the highlights of last week's party.

Fresh strawberries are one of my favorite summer treats. I just couldn't decide between these two stuffed strawberry posts, so I'm featuring them both.

Chocolate-Dipped Strawberry Cheesecake Bites |  CA-strawberries

This ice cream is calling my name and bonus, you don't need an ice cream maker either.

Guri Guri - Hawaiian Ice Cream

We're going to be painting baseboards soon. This little tip is going to come in quite handy.

Easy, No Mess Way to Paint Baseboards - Crafty Journal

And, just in case you've missed some of this week's post, here's what I've been working on.

Ok, Let's see what YOU have been doing this week.

Tuesday, July 15, 2014

Spray Painted Coffee Filter Wreath & Mantle Styling

Chug-a-lug, chug-a-lug. That's how big room projects feel to me. I'm terrible about finishing BIG projects. There are so many parts and it takes so long I get a bit distracted and move on to new things. Our living room is no exception. With the completion of this coffee filter wreath and mantle decoration I think we're about 90% finished and that is pretty remarkable for me.

It took me what felt like forever to decide what to do with our mantle space. There are so many options for decorating that blank expanse of wall space over a fireplace. Pictures, mirrors, shutters, wreaths....what to do, what to do?

I actually wanted to put a mirror up there. But a very specific large oval shaped mirror with silver frame and I couldn't find it anywhere. There are smaller ones, but I needed quite a large one to fit proportionally.

Eventually the idea of creating a coffee filter wreath popped into my head and I went from there.

To make your own, you'll need:

Pack of 200 coffee filters
Styrofoam wreath form
Unsharpened pencil
Hot Glue Gun

Put your unsharpened pencil into the center of a coffee filter and pull the coffee filter down around the pencil like a closed umbrella. Use the wood end of the pencil, not the eraser end because the hot glue could melt the eraser and that would be a mess.

Add a dollop of hot glue to the outside of the coffee filter on the wood end.

Press onto wreath form.

When adding your filters, begin on the inside and work in rows. Don't worry too much if there is a little gap.  You'll be able to go back and fill in those gaps at the end.


Mine took about four rows and several gaps that I filled in.

Fluff up the filters.

I wanted to add a little color to my wreath but had no patience to dye the filters prior to making my wreath, so I used gold spray paint to lightly dust the edges of the filters with color.

In my mind, the gold spray paint was going to be brighter and more yellow. Instead, I got a more neutral look to the wreath and it blended in with my wall color way too well. So I NEEDED to find a way to add color if this was going to be my mantle piece.

A few years ago I got some old windows from a friend who had just replaced all the windows in her house. I actually used a couple to make some hat and bag racks, but still had two hanging around in the garage. I had just gotten some fabric from a Pick Your Plum deal that would add that much needed color. I simply hot glued the fabric onto the back of the windows to fill in the pane with a fun aqua chevron.

Now with a few knick-knacks and what-nots on the mantle I FINALLY have a mantle I enjoy.

P.S. Can you see my reflection?

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Monday, July 14, 2014

Mini Lemon Pie with Blueberries and Cream


I have really been enjoying the bounty of summer this year. Ok, every year. One of the things I get excited about each year is our garden, the fresh food we yield from it, and preserving the excess for the colder months to come. Unfortunately our lemon tree hasn't produced anything this year. It had blooms for awhile, but I think something must have gotten to them because... no lemons.

Lemons are a summer must though. So, I bought a bag of lemons from the store and made my very first lemon curd. It was so good! I can't believe I hadn't tried to make this before. I just want more and more and more.

Anyway, I used the lemon curd to make some sweet mini lemon pies with blueberries and whipped cream. Mmm.

The lemon curd recipe I used comes from here.

Mini Phyllo cups

For the Lemon Curd:
1/2 cup sugar
1 tbsp flour
1.5 tbsp cornstarch
1/8 tsp salt
3/4 cup water
1 lemon juiced & zested
1 tbsp butter
2 egg yolks

For the cream:
1/2 cup whipping cream
1/2 tbsp sugar
1/2 tsp vanilla extract

Set out phyllo cups on a baking sheet and preheat oven to 350.

Begin by combining all dry ingredients for lemon curd in a saucepan. Stir in water, lemon juice, and zest. Cook until mixture comes to a boil - stir with whisk frequently so it doesn't stick to the bottom of your pan. Once the mixture has begun to boil add in butter.

In a separate bowl, pour in your egg yolks and beat with a fork. Pour in 1/2 cup of hot mixture from your pan and mix. Pour this mixture back into the saucepan with the rest.

Continue to cook and whisk until you notice the lemon curd thickening.

Spoon lemon curd into phyllo cups.

While the lemon curd is cooling, mix up your whipped cream. I suppose you could get store bought, but since I learned how easy it is to make your own whipped cream, I've never gone back.

Pour whipping cream, sugar, and vanilla into a bowl and blend on high with a whisk attachment until you get stiff peaks. Viola, whipped cream. I love using my kitchen aid for this because I don't have to stand over it the whole time.

Top each of your pies with a few blueberries each and a little dollop of cream.

Put the pies in the fridge to allow your lemon curd to continue to set.

I actually couldn't wait to let mine set, my tummy was very greedy. So my pies had a softer lemon filling, but still ubber tastey.

Have you been using lemon in your cooking or baking this summer? What are your favorite recipes?

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Wednesday, July 9, 2014

Show & Tell #85

Welcome back to Gingerly Made's Show & Tell party!

It's time to link up your latest and greatest again! I am always excited to see what you've been up to. Before we get into this week's newest projects, let's take a look at some of the highlights of last week's party.

slushie syrup

Simple Mesh Bag Tutorial | Step by step directions how to sew a mesh bag with a simple fold-over closure, no zipper. | The Inspired Wren

Farm Market Pizza

And, just in case you've missed some of this week's post, here's what I've been working on.

Ok, Let's see what YOU have been doing this week.
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